You Are Who You Are, Why Change?



We are all born into this world different in a perfect genetic chaos, making us unique. Unless, you of course have a twin brother or a sister, then you might consider yourself a little bit not unique.

If the universe wanted it the other way, we would all like the same music, dress the same way, are thoughts would be the same, our lives would be exactly the same.

But the nature itself tends to the chaotic state. It’s natural to be chaotic, to be different than the others who surround you.

I often question myself, what would happen’ if I really accept a long-term psychotherapy and completely change my mindset, my behaviour, my relationships with other people?

Would it still be me? Or someone else?

I know a guy with BPD for many years. When he reached the bottom, and searched for help, he undergo the process of a long psychotherapy sessions.

He is not the same person anymore.

We are still friends, but some of his reactions, sentences, the way he sees the world, is fully changed. I disagree with him a lot. And our friendship is not what it used to be.

In a way, a lost a friend.

I’m glad for him because he leads a normal life, with minor problems now and then, but I would never accept changing myself into someone else.

Sorry, I was born this way. I apologize for all my mistakes, bad manners, harsh words. I did the wrong this in my life. I hurt people, and I am sorry because of that.

But the others have hurt me as well, in a worse and more terrible way then I have done to anybody, ever!

Have they been sent to the psychiatrist? No.

So I choose to by myself.

The way I am.

I have changed only one thing: I brought a lot of kindness, empathy and love towards the others.

My character, though, didn’t change.

If you’re messing with me, it’s not gonna end well for you.

If you are kind to me, I’ll be kind to you.

My personality is who I am, but my attitude depends on you!

That’s why I posted this song.

It says it all.

“Someone finds salvation in everyone
And another only pain
Someone tries to hide himself
Down inside himself he prays
Someone swears his true love
Until the end of time
Another runs away
Separate or united?
Healthy or insane?

To be yourself is all that you can do!”



6 thoughts on “You Are Who You Are, Why Change?

  1. Fleea June 18, 2014 / 12:19 PM

    Thanks for this one, love it. So true for me. Sometime people around you just don’t want you kind, don’t want you happy, don’t want you at all but wants to keep you there behind them unhappy but there. When the only thing you ever wanted is to spend your time sharing the best with them. They make it impossible and ask you why?

    Liked by 1 person

    • Tina The Mess June 18, 2014 / 12:33 PM


      I had been in that kind of situations, but not anymore.
      I do not allow anyone to make me unhappy, to mess with me in any way.
      I broke that mindset, and now I know how to leave and when to leave out of that kind of situation/ friendship/ relationship.

      I’ve learned it in a hard way, but now I feel much stronger. No one can make me unhappy. if they do, I’m not spending my time on them, not anymore, not a second more!



  2. andy1076 June 18, 2014 / 12:35 PM

    You are beautiful the way you ‘ARE’ not the way people define you. 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    • Tina The Mess June 18, 2014 / 12:53 PM


      And never ever I wanted to be “defined” or “changed”.

      Thank you for your beautiful reply! 🙂


  3. Tina The Mess June 18, 2014 / 12:59 PM

    🙂 🙂 🙂

    Your comments are always most welcomed by me. 🙂



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